Men need to support one another. And we need to lift one another up to be men of strength, courage, faithfulness and stability. And older men need to support younger men to become the best men they can be.
That is what Denys seeks to do in his work.
Virtue is not a four letter word. And it is not an unmanly trait. Too many of the voices and forces wooing our young men today encourage selfishness and are steeped in machismo, infidelity, rebellion and the like. Our young men are being "led down the garden path" and the garden they are going to does not provide healthy nourishment for their lives and relationships but thorns and weeds that choke and kill.
The double messages for young men today have often become so confusing that many of are left alone, confused and wandering, trying to find their own way only to then be criticized when they fail. "Party on man! (But don't take it too far - wherever that is?? - or you'll pay.)" "Love your wife! (But it's ok to 'look at the menu.')" "Come work for us and give it all you've got! (But your family comes first - NOT!) Etc.
Virtuous manliness and faithful fatherhood are so commonly mocked. Yet young boys are left to grow up without the presence and love of a dad or a good example to follow. And the beat goes on.
Denys works with young men - single and married - to help them navigate the stuff of life, relationships and vocation and provide practical common sense approaches so they can succeed and be healthy in all these areas.
If you are a young man - or if you love someone who is - and you feel the need to connect please do not hesitate to contact Denys.
Young women in our western societies today face pressures from outside and within to meet up to standards and behave in ways that do not lift them up as humans or urge them to become women of true strength and virtue. In fact, much of what is labeled as feminism, independence and strength is resulting in the very things so many seek to overcome.
So many young women are suffering terribly due to betrayals, anxiety, self-loathing, depression, hopelessness and more. Many cultural tales and societal models they look to leave them starved, lost and wandering.
All around us media, social media, peers and even more flaunt deceptive ideas that are unrealistic, de-humanizing and de-feminizing, and that minimize virtue as though it is something ignoble and old-fashioned.
Sharon has raised 3 daughters who, with many other young women value her ability to be a fun and healthy role model and bring them wise counsel, courage, joy and hope.
In her coaching she helps young women clarify who they are, what their purpose is, and how they can be completely feminine while holding on to their strength rather than giving it away. She helps them understand their values and find their vocation in life through strategic planning and skills development.
Sharon draws on her education, training, experience as a wife and mother, and almost 6 decades of living. She also sources examples of great women of the past to help her clients be and become women of intelligence, beauty, strength, influence and virtue.
So if you are a young woman - or you know someone who is - who is facing challenges or needs direction and help, please contact Sharon.
The bishop in The Princess Bride called marriage "...that bwessed awangement,
that dweam wifin a dweam." Ok...but how in the world does this "dweam" so often end up a nightmare where we are living with the so-called "beloved enemy?!"
Circumstances of life, people's dispositions and different backgrounds and upbringings, money issues, work, disappointments, the negative aspects of culture around us, children and family, and more, all put strains on couples, making it very difficult to keep intimacy and strength in their relationship.
For some, add to this the difficulties of working in a justice or emergency-response related vocation and the "normal" turns into "excessive." Shift work, callouts, adrenaline highs and lows, primary and secondary trauma of the worst kind, betrayals by those we work with (or for) and more, and these marriages suffer greatly. But it does not have to end in disaster. You can win!
Sharon and Denys have personally journeyed the ups and downs of marriage (yes...only to each other!) for almost 39 years, 25 of which were in policing. And we are so grateful for those who helped us. We understand that for couples to win - especially couples where one or both serve in justice or emergency service jobs - they always - yes always - need help. We consider it a privilege when couples trust us to journey with them in their difficulties.
Please don't wait until it's too late. It is very common (and normal) for couples to need objective perspectives, support, and further equipping to succeed together. You deserve this. Your kids deserve it.
Please do not hesitate to contact us if you need help in your spousal relationship. Love, joy, strength and intimacy await!
Denys grew up in an RCMP home. His father was a 31 year veteran police officer. He also spent 25 years as a police officer, serving in 3 Canadian provinces. He worked in large- and medium-sized cities and small rural towns. He worked federal enforcement, uniform patrol, and numerous specialty assignments.
So he and Sharon know first hand what police and other public safety professionals go through. And their spouses and families. They all sacrifice a great deal to serve in their noble - yes noble - professions.
One of the great privileges Denys and Sharon have now is to assist and support these public servants and their loved ones.
It is sadly all-too-common for public safety personnel and their families to become victims of the negative effects of the job: shift work, call-outs, overtime, adrenaline highs and dumps, workplace toxicity, politics, etc. Primary and secondary trauma take a further toll.
One of these things might be enough to challenge the best of people. But the accumulative effects among our public guardians are staggering. And all-too-few know how to navigate all this successfully.
Our police and public safety personnel have a great need for personal and vocational guidance and help. There are major gaps that we seek to fill.
Our clients find it very helpful as we help them navigate life, relationships and vocation and provide practical common sense approaches to both.
If you are a police officer, or work in any branch of justice & emergency-response - or if you love someone who does - please do not hesitate to contact us for a confidential consultation.
Both Denys and Sharon have been students. After high school they both attended college. Denys finished police training when he was 25, his Bachelor of Arts degree when he was 33 and his Master of Arts when he was 45. And both have professional certifications that require annual educational criteria to be met.
And Denys worked as a substitute school teacher, was a police academy trainer and taught Criminology in academic post-secondary institutions.
Our daughters all have university degrees. And we hosted international students for years.
So we believe in education. And students hold a dear place in our hearts.
But many students struggle with questions such as: Who am I? How can I fulfill my life and vocational purpose? What specific course of study should I take, or continue on? What specific career path should I pursue?
And students face unique personal challenges: They may have never faced the workload they now do. They may have scholarship or sports requirements also. It may be the first time they are away from home and on their own. They may be studying in a strange city, province or country. Some face the stress of working a job and/or caring for a family at the same time.
All this commonly contributes to excessive fatigue, loneliness, depression, isolation and burnout. Combine this with conflicting thoughts about career, even ethics and morality, and the pressures can seem insurmountable. Instead of finding their way many students end up in confusion with a deep sense of lost-ness.
So if you are a student - or you know one - who is facing any of these challenges please get in touch. We'll help you find your way!
Leaders of all kinds have unique requirements they need to meet and maintain. But spiritual leaders even more so. For they are given a trust that goes beyond this physical world we live in.
That trust begins with their own persons and envelops their spousal relationship, their children and finally the others that are in their care, entrusted to them by their Creator.
Because of the great trust placed in them spiritual leaders also have unique challenges and threats. These challenges come from their own inner weaknesses, but also from things outside their own selves, even things unseen.
This is nothing new. We have centuries and centuries of examples and teachings about it, how to watch for it, how to be successful and what causes failure. But we need reliable help on the journey and especially in this vocation.
There are wolves in us and among us. Fraud and deception are ever lurking. As is disappointment. And temptations abound. Betrayal can even come from those closest to us (Jesus Christ was not exempt from this - remember Judas?).
After many years of living and serving in various spiritual leadership roles Sharon and Denys know that volunteer and paid spiritual leaders need support. They need coaching and counsel just like anyone else, but also unlike anyone else. And more than anyone else.
Drawing on proven contemporary and millennia-old principles and practices Denys and Sharon offer spiritual leaders solid, trustworthy spiritual direction and help. These are things they have found helpful in their own lives and see working in successful spiritual leaders today.
If you are a pastor or spiritual leader in any role and would like to discuss these matters with us please reach out for a confidential consultation. We are on your team.